Proper etiquette for dating a widower

I would have been dating again within a year if I had not been in a car accident that put me out of action for nine months.One is ready to date again whenever solitude gives way to loneliness.Baby showers now often include men and take place on a weekend afternoon, preferably not on the same day as a major sports event.

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That’s what makes widower dating, widow dating or building a connection with a widower/widow that much more difficult.

After all, you or your potential partner invest time, energy and heart into their marriage and their partner was taken too soon from them.

She wants to have a baby shower and would like to invite her girlfriends with their husbands or boyfriends.

I always thought that baby showers were for females only. — Wondering Grandmother DEAR WONDERING: Times have changed.

Read on: DEAR ABBY: Thank you for supporting the widow who started dating three months after her husband died.

You were right when you told her, "The time to show respect for one's spouse is while that spouse is living." Here is my story, and there must be a few thousand husbands (and wives) who feel the same as I do. We raised kids, lived through joyous good times and horrendous bad times.The letter was mainly addressed to those who might stand in judgment if she began dating soon after he was gone.Abby, is there a rule of thumb about how long the widow or widower should wait after the death of the spouse to begin pursuing another relationship? DEAR LONELY: There was a time when it was considered scandalous for a widow or widower to date before a year of mourning had passed.Some people may be ready after six months, while others may feel ready after 5 years.The widow(er) will make this decision for themselves, but the important thing is that you are about to discuss, respect and be comfortable with the amount of time they’ll—or you’ll—need.I am in my 18th month of chemo treatment for various cancers. It doesn't matter how short or how long my life will be, but it's reasonable to assume that I will die before my wife does.

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